Are you feeling anxious, overwhelmed, sad or uncertain in your relationship?  Feeling safe with someone is fundamental to our well-being.  It’s how we lead meaningful lives that are satisfying and purposeful.  And romantic love isn’t some weak sentimental notion.  It’s genetically encoded into our make up by thousands of years of evolution and tied to our survival.  In other words, it’s a necessity and worth getting right for our overall well-being.  If we can’t well bond to others, it will affect our survival and quality of life.  For many, bonding intimately with a particular partner is the only close relationship we have.

Relationships take more than attraction over the long haul.  But the work need not be terribly complicated or take years of therapy.  In fact, research shows that relationships can thrive even if partners don’t have similar interests,  and are otherwise imperfect. 

That said, while it is normal to have difficult moments and disagreements in relationships, one relationship expert, Dr. John Gottman, states that many couples wait about six years before they seek help with their relationships.  This makes it so much easier to sustain unhealthy communication and behavior that frustrates connection and makes it hard to build the trust and intimacy in which connection thrives.  You don’t have to wait that long!  Prolonging the repair of your relationship subjects you to needless suffering and the likelihood of a broken relationship.

One of the gifts of working from an eclectic mind-body approach to relationship work is being able to help couples of varied backgrounds find intimacy and connection despite being imperfect, different or limited in terms of communication skills, emotional depth or lack of “couples work.”